A moment for my poor, long-suffering friends and family, who have to deal with the Grump and the Grouch and the Crotchetty, Curmugeonly Toad I sometimes turn into when I make bad choices and allow myself to vent all my frustrations within their earshot. Those poor, poor things! Dear oh me oh my!
I know everyone needs to let off steam, and I know it’s alright to get the grumpiness out, rather than letting it fester and brew, but some days it feels as though I’ve unburdened myself at their expense, and that doesn’t seem right nor kind. I’m careless and all-too-frequently rely on the indulgence of those who care about me, to pour out my poison into their gentle ears, and rain on their parade, whilst they generously listen and offer wonderful encouragement.
As such, and given the kind of week it was, my thankfuls for Real Life (were I to list them), would range from the mundane-but-important (kind dentists, the ability to get prescription medication with relative ease, not being burned down at work) to the common-but-decidedly-glorious (being able to walk and talk with a friend, getting back to the gym and feeling somewhat capable, SUNSHINE). Consequently, I’l spare you.
Gonna focus instead on virtues*, those being the kind of ‘good, right, noble’ stuff to talk of and mull over in one’s heart (yaknow, as one types, and all the thoughts fall out of the brain through the fingertips, sometimes with great purpose and intent, sometimes skidding out sideways and landing on the page skewed, through lack of proper attention), and I know for a fact I am surrounded with oodles of people who simply embody** characteristics very much worth celebrating.
Knowledge – Kristi, who is immensely knowledgeable in all sorts of areas, and whose new joint project, Break the Parenting Mold, is providing education, support, and understanding to those in the special needs community, and the world at large.
Determination – Beth and Kerry, both of whom are amidst personal creative projects which are entrenched in the roots of their personalities, and are showing huge perseverence and measured application in their pursuit of bringing their goals to fruition.
Loyalty – Abbie, who cares so much for her friends, she will put them in touch that they might support one another, if she feels unable to do so – she knows her friends so well, understands and fulfils their needs where possible, and is just absolutely committed to being a good friend. And she succeeds most wonderfully.
Humanity – Hasty, whose #BeReal series, and her own repeated examples of honesty, love, kindness, and social intelligence, provide the opportunity for people to be vulnerable, respected, and engage with deep resonance and heart, to what they read.
Persistence – Erin and Jesi and Jen and Ivy and Scott all of whom have shown remarkable fortitude under a variety of extremely challenging, life-changing circumstances…all of whom still get on with the business of LIVING, and embettering the world for those around them as they go.
Honour – Byron, who seems constantly geared towards advocating for those in vulnerable positions, and encouraging people to step up and do the right thing, to take charge of their challenges and be the best person they can be, for the love and sake of those around them.
Sacrifice – Samara, who in spite of her (at times) sharp and satirical tongue, would and will (and has) moved mountains and faced down monsters for the sake of her wonderful son, Little Dude.
Bravery – Ken, who is BACK, writing again, sharing tales of everyone’s favourite Dilettante, whilst wrestling with the dark angel of Depression, and supporting those nearest and dearest to him.
Generosity – Michelle who seems to have time, and space in her heart, for absolutely EVERYONE, and who is just a sheer delight to know; and Robert, who is a constant source of encouragement and endorsement, to me and many others.
Satisfaction – So, SO many people I know, who haven’t got it all, or got it all right, but nonetheless recognise the value of being satisfied with (and rejoicing for) what they DO have. Lisa, Val, Denise, Christine, Dyanne Chris and Mandi all jump immediately to mind, but there are MANY more, and I’m grateful for the presence of each in my life.
And, as ever, looking at the wonderful people I have in my world, and remembering too, the virtues which I can attribute to my family and friends here, has made me think of the lovely and the sparkly and the GOOD in my week, and I’m smiling around the corners of my mouth as I recall lovely conversations, laughter, poetry, and shared experiences of nature’s beauty.
HOORAY for the consistency of the effect of this exercise in thankfulness.
If you don’t share your thankfuls for the week, at least THINK about them. It’s worth it. Promise.
*Good grief, when I looked up ‘the virtues’ I realised there are SO many I’m lacking, and so many of the ‘deadly’ sins I’m really rather good at, it made me feel HUGELY better to be able to celebrate those I KNOW are getting it right.
**with the proviso that we’re all a mixture, and the understanding that everyone’s capable of behaving in good and bad ways, and we none of us are ALL good.