I can’t quite believe I’m writing these words, but this is my last TToT for a month!!!
For absolutely the VERY BEST of reasons – my trip to Murica is FINALLY HERE! And that’s why I’m writing this well, well in advance (no whips needed this week, Erin) on Wednesday evening; because there is SO MUCH TO DO (and also on Friday when I usually write these (with Erin’s special brand of motivation) I’m going to be at a boozy picnic, and whilst there may be a few drunk WhatsApp messages, I doubt there’d be a coherent TToT in me, so trust me – this is best).
Excuse me while I jump up and down with excitement and run in circles of dizzying happiness.
I think ALL TEN of my Things this week could easily begin and end with ‘MURICA’, for there is SO MUCH encapsulated within that one word, but I’ll try to keep with the spirit of the thing, and do some actual, proper thankfuls. Well. Much as I ever do.
I pledge allegiance
THAT SAID, I do have to pause to celebrate the wonderful, wonderful cementing of friendships which I’ve come to cherish as dearly as any In Real, by the wonder of meeting them IN PERSON. Can’t not say that. I’ll write later in the week to let you know who I’m going to meet, why I love them, and then you can check their blogs as I travel to see if they dish any dirt.
To the flag of friendship
Wait…friendship was the last one…nevermind! This week I received THREE wonderful things in the post, thanks to my friends. One was a gorgeous glitterbomb ‘get well soon’ (it’s called snail mail for a reason, yo!) from Joy-to-my-world and her youngest two kiddos. Another was the all-important SIM for my new phone plan in the US (BOOOO to my UK provider for not having anything which suits the US). A third is a SURPRISE PARCEL which was too big for my letterbox, and which I need to collect tomorrow….NO idea what it is!
And to the community
Ahhhh community. So important. This week I’ve heard some shocking awful things which have happened in the lives of people I care for, and I’m just so glad to know that in *this* community, we support one another, and try to empathise, encourage, and offer what we can in the way of listening ears or comforting words. It matters more than you know, and it strengthens the bonds we share. I love it.
For which it stands
And that’s another glorious thing about this community – they’re not afraid to be a bit activist. Whether that’s standing up against bad government policy; trying to bring about reform; offering others the chance to become educated about certain topics, rather than dismissing the person along with their ignorance – we are FOR each other, but also FOR others.
One determined group
The fund for Jenny’s wedding and housing is still going strong and receiving beautiful support from a giant, global Village of people who CARE. I love that – miles don’t get in the way of compassion, and donation sites can make it possible for practical help (donations or shares) to be offered. It’s wonderful, and it’s making a real difference.
Focussed on Seeking Beauty,
I remember when I first joined Instagram, and how worried I was about getting it wrong, and having to learn the rules for one more social media site. But honestly, the beauty and enjoyment which can be had through seeing photo-updates of people’s varied and incredible lives is just GORGEOUS. I recommend it to everyone. And if you follow me there, you’ll see what I get up to on my trip. It’s free to join, and worth every penny.
I revealed a rather important part of my own-self this week on Facebook, in an effort to live authentically, and to #BeReal in the best way I know how. I don’t like living half-truths or hiding behind assumptions and that’s what I’ve been doing. So now that I’m no longer married, I decided it was time to gently appraise ‘the world at large’ that I’m not (nor never have I been) a person who can fit neatly into a heteronormative box. I’m a mixture; I always have been, and at the moment (perhaps understandably) I’m leaning far more towards the hitherto closeted aspect. NOT that it should matter to you who I fancy/date/whatever, but in the interests of transparency and just to have it Out There, I did it anyway and outed myself.
And delightfully, other than the number of people who will have noticed and chosen to let their silence speak for them, I received only support and positivity from my friends, so THANK YOU for that. In further interests of transparency (and not because I feel I owe an explanation, but because I’d rather not leave any untidy thoughts which could be speculated upon); YES, Husby knew all along, and NO, it wasn’t a factor in our marriage breakdown. I chose him, and I chose to live in an absolutely committed relationship, which sadly broke down due to multiple other factors.
Living Life in Silver Linings,
I bought some WONDERFUL STUFF, which came recommended to me by Jenny, and having traced the product she gave me back to a beautiful website, I bought a custom-picked, 7-ingredient Bach Remedy, containing within it all good things which should help me to overcome these low moods without the need for pharmaceuticals. I’ve been taking the drops at least twice a day for a week, and have been mostly on an even keel. Whether or not it’s the drops, a placebo effect, or just the fact that I was due some even keel, I’LL SO VERY TAKE IT!
And forever supporting each other
I have had SO MUCH support and input from my people, in planning this Murica trip (yes, okay – back to that…) and I have been overwhelmed by the generosity of each and every person who has already helped so, so much, and each who is prepared to bend over backwards to help turn me into a delightful, English pass-the-parcel through the States, so that I get to live my dream and meet IN REAL the people to whom my heart has been hardwired. On those days, when No Wires are Required, I shall be utterly rapturous. I still can’t quite believe it’s really, really happening. BUT IT IS!
Knowing that Together we’re Stronger
We just are. Keep togethering – it matters.
Have a gorgeous weekend, and a glorious upcoming month.