Ten Things of Thankful 104 – #10Thankful

I’m going to try this for ONE MORE WEEK, because at the moment, in all honesty, it’s just not working out and I’m absolutely ready to quit and just do what works for me – which doesn’t appear to be THIS. I have absolute confidence that everyone can manage to continue their lives without worrying too much, and I hope you can understand WHY I’m saying this…but it’s been an uphill struggle and I’m just…I’m done, people. Really done.

LAST CHANCE to vote on this verdammt poll for the new banner, before I give up completely on the idea. GET GOING OVER THERE AND BLOOMIN’ WELL HAVE YOUR SAY! Cos there are a bunch of people who have taken the time to make something for your perusal, and there’s been a shoddy response to their efforts. PLEASEplease honour their efforts by taking TWO SECONDS to show your opinion of them? It’s really not hard. Or time-consuming. And it will stop me standing here with my arms crossed and my toe tapping, about five seconds away from a hissy fit.

THANK YOU! CLICK HERE AND VOTE. Then you get to read the rest of this.


Shall I take us back to ‘happy’? More specifically, MY happy, because it’s been pretty much a week full of it, in one regard or another, so I’m hoping that this will be another post full of *twinklysparklygoodness*.

It’s been a three-day week for me, because I took a couple of days off while Mum was away, so that I could go and do all the things she normally does to help my Sis with Niece and Neff. Which meant that two mornings this week, my day began with little, delighted, sleepy-eyed faces, wrap-around hugs, and banter with my Sis, who is one of my favourite people in the world. I got to sing the ‘I love you’ songs which make Niece grin and dance, and make Neff squirm and growl at me (loudly) and I got to just…join in with ‘familying’ for a bit, and feel a tiny, tiny taste of what life could have been like. And it was beautiful…

…but each day I TOTALLY went home and flaked out, crawling back into bed until the afternoon – NOT because I found them exhausting and unhandleable, but because I pulled an all-nighter and ended up giggling and singing and laughing with Vince and some of my wonderful Muricans ALL NIGHT TIL DAYTIME AGAIN. The highlight was that at 3am when I was bitching explaining about how my hairdresser always turned her nose up and told me NO when I expressed wanting the side of my hair shaved, Vince said (and I paraphrase, because I always do) ‘fuck that noise – let’s do it now!’

So we did. And I grinned the ENTIRE time, as clumps of hair ended up on the floor, and my style got more and more funky and something I LOVE.

Plans at 3amI tried to write, but it hasn’t happened. Not beating myself up about it. Just enjoying life. (Though I did finish another chapter of the book I’m vaguely working on, and it got good feedback so far, which is always nice, and I have a plan for the next chapter, which is also nice.)

I’ve had some wonderful chats with wonderful friends. Poetry’s happened (mine, and other people’s), and today I read the most wonderful piece on transgender issues, and it made me happy that I’m part of a collective of people who also think it’s important to speak up about these things. YAY! It also helped to cement what MAYBE perhaps just might be an idea which is still taking root, which possibly is what I’d like to do when I grow up. Which is a Big Deal because I never had any ambitions before. And now I kinda do. I want to travel more. And this new thing which…I’m not sure how you’ll receive it and to be honest it’s still in the early stages of thought, but I’d love to open up a hostel for trans people, because they’re already an ‘at risk’ group, and when they’re homeless, they really are amongst the vulnerablest of the vulnerable, and I’ve always had a heart for homeless people and the trans community.

So there’s that.

Last weekend, Vince’s kids came to stay. I’ve known them since they were both babies, and they’re ADORABLE and firmly part of ‘my’ set of kids, and I ADORE the idea that I hopefully will now get to see them with some frequency, and be part of their lives, and watch them grow up, which makes eight kids who are all a little bit mine, locally, to some degree, and I love that.

I got a glitterbomb this week (with implied glitter) from my darling, zesty, Previous Princess Rosebud, who sent me MEN (two tiny surfer dudes) and a gloriously beachy shirt and a bag and pen and mug, because they’re the touristy kind of things I would buy if I was in Cali, and honestly, the parcel made my DAY, not just because of the fun things, but because it’s such a gorgeous expression of friendship – to take the time and effort to find lovely things and bother sending them over, with a sweet note…that’s the MAIN thing which gets me right in the heartstrings each time something exciting and lovely turns up on my doorstep, and why I adore sending glitterbombs to my friends…it makes it Real-er somehow.

Surfhappy Princess Present

And another lovely thing is that I have four ‘works in progress’ to organise and send SOON! Gorgeous, gorgeous, gorgeous.

I’ve found a lovely friend in Lindsay, who writes at Mad Tea Party In My Head, and who I found through various pathways on Facebook and through the ever-incredible Hasty Words, and who now sweetly checks in with me every so often, to see how I’m doing, which is lovely. We’ve connected through poetry and sharing truths in writing, and I kind of adore her, and it’s been so nice to chat.

Another lovely friend is Erin, who keeps sending me the most poignant, perfect pictures and quotes on facebook, and nearly every day finds something encouraging or buoying and posts it to my wall, to keep me thinking, keep me engaging, and keep me going, and I’m hugely, hugely grateful for her thoughtfulness and kindness.

What else? I’m embracing my girliness and have now been called a “million percent girl” several times for various squee-ing or particularly frilly moments. Which is fun. But I now have three new summer outfits which are ALL of the dress/skirt variety. And I have a complete outfit for the Princess Party I’m going to on the 4th July (a friend’s daughter’s 18th celebration, to which she informed me “I need you there – you’re coming with me”, which is SO nice, because FRIENDS, and also doubly nice because I’ve rarely been considered worthy of being invited to parties, and ESPECIALLY not princess parties).

Just an aside – according to THIS QUIZ, my Disney doppelganger is Belle. Who likes books. And is gentle and sweet and kind and (oops) falls in love with a Beast (sayingnothingsayingnothing) and who makes friends with everyone she possibly can. Except mean people. And she’s not horrid to them – just steers clear if she can. I like that comparison.

Last weekend was BlogU, and though I was a million miles away, the UTTERLY FABULOUS Jessica D’Pirate, of Domestic Pirate (who has GORGEOUS hair, by the way) made me a presence there by taking me along in a bag. Kinda. We schemed and she bought a bag of glittery love-bombs from us both, and she glittered people on my behalf, and I got photos of her with various fabulous bloggers I know, all glittery and jazzed up with fun gifts. It was BEAUTIFUL and I’m so grateful to her for joining me in.

And just very recently, my world has been turned to musical happiness by the kindness and generosity of my favourite Dilettante, Helena Hann-Basquiat, who hooked me up with the James album ‘Millionaires’, and it is WONDERFUL WONDERFUL WONDERFUL and making me SO happy.


All the happies. So many. And now I don’t know if that should be happies, happys or something else entirely, but yaknow what? I’m not gonna be conflicted. I’m gonna let it go, and swirl off in a cloud of sparkling stars, ready to send the link around and get this week’s TToT off the ground before Erin starts cracking her whip again.

Take care, my lovelies, and I hope you’ve had a good week. And if you know someone who hasn’t, try to cheer them up somehow – just let them know you’re there, or whatever. It helps. Promise.


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121 thoughts on “Ten Things of Thankful 104 – #10Thankful

  1. OMG comments much? It’s taken me five minutes to scroll down here! Okay, so here are my very valid points, if I do say so myself:
    1. I voted as I did not want to be the cause of your exasperated sighs. I think I did it the right way…? See I’m not exactly tech savvy, which leads me to my next point…
    2. I love your blog layout and I love how your pictures have these cute captions on them. I’d have to pay my blog designer everytime I’d want to do something fancy like that.
    3. Your hair is super cute.
    4. Yup, you’re totally girly, and I am SO looking forward to the princess party with pics of the dress!
    5. You words are so inspirational and uplifting, and honestly I started reading various blogs tonight feeling a little anxious because of something that happened at work yesterday, and I tend to hang on to my anxiety like a child I’m afraid will run away, and seriously, after reading this, I find your enthusiasm contagious.

    That is all. I will be back.

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    • *hugs* I know all about anxiety, Sandra, and I’m there with you right now. I’m so glad reading this helped you! Ouf! Thank you for your beautiful comment – that’s actually helped me a bit, and I’m so grateful. Thank you.

      Thanks for voting. No exasperation. Promise 🙂

      THANK YOU for loving my layout. I use PicMonkey to do the pics, and just play around with them – takes time but it’s worth it, I think, and good fun.

      Thanks for thinking my hair is nice, and that I’m girlie. That means a lot. There WILL be pics of the party.

      You just made my morning. Thank you 🙂 please DO come back. Hope you have a good day.


  2. Love the hair, but more love that you have the courage to be who you are on the inside and make it visible on the outside. Full of color, spunk and more than a little glitter 😉

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  3. How nice of you to take over your mom’s Niece and Neff duties!
    If that was paraphrasing Vince, what did he REALLY say about the hairdresser not wanting to shave your head?
    Okay, I clicked on the link and looked at the entries, but I CAN’T FIGURE OUT HOW TO VOTE. Nor, might I add, could I figure out how to add the linky thing to MY posts to encourage people to make a banner and vote. So can I just say I choose #6?

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    • Oh, and you are TOTALLY Belle. I got Anna, but I truly think it was looking at Emma and not me. Is it worth changing my profile pic to one just of me to find out?

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    • I quite liked doing it – I got a couple of lazy days off work, and to see the kiddos a bit more, so YAY!

      He probably said a sweary word and emphasised that it was MY hair and SHE should do as she was told. I can’t remember now. But I also got told off for misquoting V, so now I’m only allowed to paraphrase 😉

      The hearts to click to vote are in the top right corner. It’s a pain, this voting business. Not doing it again.


  4. Before Regular Guy said he too took quiz and was Genie, I was thinking of asking if Three Votes = Three Wishes granted by a genie?!


  5. I’m embracing my girliness and have now been called a “million percent girl” several times for various squee-ing or particularly frilly moments. Which is fun. But I now have three new summer outfits which are ALL of the dress/skirt variety. And I have a complete outfit for the Princess Party”

    which is very cool (the simple enjoyment of a non-puzzle-in-head thing to do)…. however

    no! wait!! hear me out!! I’m not going to say anything you think I’m going to say…. wait, you’re pretty damn advanced in Doctrine, so maybe I am going to say some of what you think I’m going to say…. actually I will only say: ‘take notes’!

    (for Readers not up on WD: ‘take notes’ is a shorthand reminder (to others of like mind) to notice the differences that may appear in the corners and/or on the fringes of our respective worlds. In this case, the suggestion applies to a clark venturing into an area that, while legitimately a proper thing*, nevertheless can cause dynamic tensions (not always a bad thing, self-enlightenmently speaking) within, as we (clarks) move through the Wonderland that is our daily lives.)

    Between you and Cyndi I need never have to buy another book again (though, of course I will), but the adventures of clarks that you are both making available! On behalf of the clarks on the farther end of the age/energy spectrum, I say, thank you very much!

    * we are heir to all three worldviews and though it would be the rogers who do the ‘perfect girl thing’…. (clarks are known for their remarkably creative…. er flourishes and scottian women… well, I’ll leave it to the imagination of the Reader for what the result of a scottian effort to be a ‘million percent girl’ lol)

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  7. Sorry…I was slow on voting. I almost entered but then remembered three kids, blog, work and NO TIME. Love them all though. Was hard to vote for just one. Lovely glitter bomb. Have been trying to find the perfect thing, but haven’t yet. Sitting in NYC hotel thinking of you Though!!

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    • Sweetie, there was never an obligation to enter – it was only if people had time and inclination 🙂 But the voting really helps. You get three votes though…

      I haven’t found the perfect thing for you yet either, so we’re very much quits. It might be a while but it will be wonderful.

      Love that you’re thinking of me – that makes me feel very special. Thank you ❤


  8. I’m not sure if clicking the button we like registers our vote? In case not, I love #6 with the robin’s eggs. I love your hair, love that you had a great week with all of your kids and LOVE the idea of opening a safe place for trans people to stay while traveling. Don’t give up on that idea.

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  10. Sounds like a great week, Lizzi! I just tried to vote on the buttons, but didn’t quite figure out how. Am I too stupid for some easy piece of internet again? Probably! Why does your hairdresser refuse to give you the style you want? It’s your hair, not hers, and YOU are the customer. If my hairdresser refused to cut my hair the way I wanted to, I’d not pay her. Period. Anyways, I enjoy my afternoon naps these days as well.. If Mr. Calvin decides that he wants to nap. If not, no naps for mom. I’m happy for your having kiddos around, and glitter bombs, and gifts 🙂

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    • There should be little hearts to click in the top right-hand corner of the pictures. It’s not you – everyone’s finding it utterly impossible and I’m sorry about that. It’s a silly system *sigh*

      It’s been a glorious week, and my hairdresser will NOW do what I tell her, because there’s not much else she can do with a shaved side of head except maintain it. Hehehe.


  11. I think your hair is fabulous. It really is. I’m so glad that you went and did it! Someone told me that the difference between a good haircut and a bad haircut was a week when I went in for a really bad haircut and it turned out to be a really bad haircut — FYI a week’s worth of growth does not make it better. Just sayin. But your hair is just *BAM* awesome. You own it.
    I voted so don’t come and kick my ass.
    I love that you had to tap out during the afternoon not because life but because you were busy living it. That my friend makes me happier than you know xoxo

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    • That’s a good thought, that last one. I’ll keep it. Thank you ❤ You're awesome, and your perspective is wonderful, as ever. I know you work hard with perspective, and it pays off – you've got it.

      THANK YOU for being probably the most enthusiastic person of all about my hair. I still seriously love it, and also think that if you ever wanted to try it, you'd be able to rock this look as well. I don't think a week will help if you hate a bad haircut, but maybe six weeks and another cut from someone else…


  12. I truly love your hair, it suits you well!

    For the life of me I can’t figure out how to vote for my favorite button or I would have. Do we have to go to Twitter to vote? Where is the voting link? Am I just totally dense?

    You seem so much happier these days overall, and I love that for you, so nice to find you rediscovering the joy in life! Just reading your post made me happy all the way, and I ended up smiling, which is exactly what is supposed to happen here… magic! Thank you, Lizzy! 🙂

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    • Aha! With a little direction from Ivy I figured out what the problem is. The hearts to click on aren’t showing up on my Windows 8 tablet. When I tried it on my iPhone, no problem. I’ve voted now! I thought I was becoming rapidly senile in my advancing age! :-))

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    • Awh thanks for liking my hair. I’m so happy about it. It makes me smile still, just to reach up and feel the ‘gone’ness of it. And YAY to smiling and happiness and joy. That’s definitely what this hop SHOULD be about, somehow 😀


    • Sometimes the little things really, really matter. So far so good on the weekend but last night there was wine and then truths…and now I’m not sure what I said to whom any more. I really SHOULD have let Vince hide my phone…GAH!

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  13. I voted, but it then took me to the website of My Virtual Vineyard and I got the following message: “Nothing Found 404. Apologies, but no results were found for your request. Perhaps searching will help you to find a related content.”

    If it matters, I liked the peacock banner – because those are my favorite colors in the world.

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  14. There are many things here that I would love to talk about more deeply. It’s after midnight here, though, and I have a HUGE pile of things to do tomorrow morning to get ready for Zilla’s birthday, part deux – tomorrow is the actual party and I am nowhere near prepared.
    But let me say this – the idea is wonderful and I am so not surprised that it sprung from your head and your heart. Speaking of your head, the ‘do is awesome and your face…there is a light there that I don’t think I’ve seen before. (Not that I’ve ever ACTUALLY SEEN your face, but you know what I mean.)
    I need to talk to you about a thing I want to do that may require your help. Don’t let me forget but if you remind me before the party weekend is through I WILL forget so later.
    I know we’ll talk at some point. For now I must get to sleep or the party will never happen!


    • Oh Lisa now I’m INTERESTED AND WANT TO KNOOOOOOOOOOOOWWW! But okay. Sleep first. Party later. THEN WE TALK! *intrigued*

      And thank you. You’re very perceptive – I feel different; like I’m coming alive and beginning to take deep breaths filled with oxygen instead of haze and sludge and darkness. It’s been a long time since I’ve felt like this, and I had no idea how much I missed it, or how different I had become.

      THANK YOU for thinking my idea is wonderful. The more I think about it, the more I love it and really, really want to make it happen somehow. Not immediately, but at some point. I’d LOVE it. *happysighs* My first ever ambition in life. Well, after travelling to Murica to meet you all…

      Let’s talk more deeply once you’re the other side of the party. I always like deep talks with you 🙂


    • YES let’s do it! The lovely thing is, anyone can ANYONE a glitterbomb – I’m kinda hoping it catches on as a trend 😀 Thanks for voting. YAY! I like that I made sense this time…


  15. I voted! Or at least I think I voted? Now I’m going to have to double check to see if I voted. I’m glad you love your hair because haircuts that make us happy make everything seem a little brighter – even though I do think you were pretty brave to just take the buzzers to it!

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    • Ohhh you wonderful thing for voting. You should have gotten pop-up boxes which told you how many votes you had left, if you were clicking the hearts on the pictures you liked 🙂

      And thank you – haircuts DO make things feel better. And not brave – this is something I’ve wanted for ages…


  16. All kinds of happy here, Lizzi. 🙂 Well, except for that first bit. LOL I’m quite sure it worked. I voted last week, but you even had me shaking in my shoes and all kinds of worried. I went back to double check. Yep. Three hearts showing. Whew! 🙂

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    • I knew that a few people had voted last week, but SERIOUSLY, out of the number of people who participate, it was a pretty shoddy turnout! THANK YOU for being on the ball 🙂

      And YES so much happiness this week. lol. YAY!

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    • They did, THEY DID! They tickled me pink! I was and am so happy with them. THANK YOU ❤ They're brilliant. And you are. The little surfer dudes are on my 'friends shrine' on my mantelpiece, and my pen is right next to me now because I SO NEEDED A PEN…I constantly misplace the one I have At All Times 😉


  17. yeah…well..I guess I was confused. I kept telling people to submit banners, but I didn’t get that the voting had started. The page doesn’t even say “click a banner to vote” or anything! Anyway…I voted. 🙂

    I’m glad you were able to have so much fun with the kids this week. AND were able to party with some Muricans till all hours.

    Your haircut reminds me of a style my sister tried out back in middle school. yours looks better. 🙂

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    • Heheh thanks. It’s a bit bonkers, but I like it. Mostly cos *I’m* a bit bonkers.

      I had gorgeous times and I loved it. Really truly loved it. Those kids are all such wonderful additions to my life 🙂

      Annnnnd I guess I’m not as clear about this banner thing as I wish I was *sigh* Still I think I got there now. And I didn’t know about the hearts til I voted myself!


  18. It’s great to have a happy week, full of glittery sparkly wonderment. (You’re so good at that) Lizzi, I see you evolving, I think and that is wonderful. I think a hostel for homeless anybody – transgender especially is a lofty humanitarian action and one that will succeed because if is your passion.

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    • I hope, I hope, I hope it could…and I promise it’s not JUST so I can live in a beautiful, fun, vibrant, accepting city by the sea…I PROMISE it’s definitely about providing a place of safety for some of society’s most vulnerable people…but it’s quite a draw that Brighton would be the *ideal* place for it to be set up…

      Thank you Val, for always appreciating the sparkles and the deeper stuff, too 🙂

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  19. Oh how weeks like this seeing all your glorious goodness sparkle right through your words, makes me so INCREDIBLY happy!! I just love love love reading all the wonderful things you have had in your life, sweetie!!

    I will I WILL go vote now…

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    • YAY VOTING! Thank you Kitty ❤

      I'm so glad that it makes you happy when I'm writing in sparkles. I felt SO MANY SPARKLES when you told me your news though, about how you're doing. That was something which made me feel so happy inside.


  20. You’re looking so very princessie purdy! Love the hair, girl! I do wish you could come over and have a gin and tonic with me with a twissler straw! 🙂 You spread so much love to so many, it’s no surprise that love is coming right back at you! xo ps. I tried to vote but not sure it worked.

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  21. Your idea is WONDERFUL and I’m so glad you have an idea of something to do that is MEANINGFUL to you. And I voted. And I’m sorry I haven’t voted before now. Somehow I thought it was a call for submissions and that’s so beyond me so I sort of tuned it out. I’m glad your life is so full of happy and late night revelry.

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    • *grins* NOOOOO only if you wanted to – it’s just a decider on the new banner out of the ones which WERE submitted 😀 I’m not very good at being clear sometimes, I think.

      And YES I LOVE LOVE MY IDEA! I really want to do it. SO MUCH.


  22. I can’t even finish reading this post until you actually clarify the first paragraph for me. I think it says you are not going to do the Ten Things of Thankful Link Up anymore. Or do I need to keep reading? I’ll keep reading.

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  23. Your hair looks great. I’m so glad you decided to stop yowling about the cow’s lick that was left after I did EXACTLY WHAT YOU TOLD ME TO DO AND WAS THEN BLAMED FOR THE WAY YOUR HAIR GROWS *manly eyeroll* and that you let me just shave the fucker off. 😛

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  24. Hi Lizzi !! Your posts make me smile, and for that I am thankful. I have a friend who is MtoF. I worked with her. What I found so wonderful is how supportive everyone that we worked with was. She was so open & honest & supportive of US getting used to it. She had gender reassignment surgery & that shit is NO JOKE. I have seen her go through so much physically, and am amazed at how much happier she is. She had gotten to the point that she wanted to kill herself. Thank God she didn’t and that she’s finally able to live her authentic self. I will say, though, that pronoun shit is tough. She was very patient.

    So anyways, just wanted to say that I do not understand people’s close minded attitudes. Why do people care, one way or the other, if it does not directly effect them. SMH

    Have a great weekend ☺☺

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    • Diana, what you say is so poignant…it’s no joke to have surgery like that, but far less fun to be trapped in a body which isn’t right, and to feel so desperate that you want to die…that story is all too common amongst the trans community and its ATROCIOUS. And ABSOLUTELY – why does anyone else CARE? If someone’s in the wrong body and decides to change that body to match their insides, honestly, unless they’re in a relationship, it has NOTHING to do with them.

      Closed-mindedness upsets me, and it drives such wedges between people, and it’s so damn unnecessary. Sorry. Soapbox moment there.

      I’m glad your friend is doing better. She sounds very courageous and I’m glad she was open and confident enough to support the people around her, about getting used to her transition.


    • I have generally found that people found the name change easier than the pronoun change. Lizzi, to her credit, took to it like the proverbial duck to water. She’s so fab ❤

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    • Heheh YAY! Thanks for voting. No hissy fits for you 🙂 WHOOT!

      Thanks for loving the hair. And YES…ohgosh, those kids just make my world SO much better. I adore them to pieces.


  25. I could totally picture you cross-armed, tapping get your foot impatiently, with a scowl on your face at the beginning there….. lol. Sorry. I voted already, though! It was NOT me! 😉 I love your happies this week!! I have more to say, but maybe later. Commenting via phone is kinda irritating, ya know? 😉

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    • Lol I hate commenting on my phone. SO get you! And THANK YOU FOR VOTING! You get a gold star and ten Awesome Points for being fabulous.

      I’m really good at hissy fits. Trust me. I flounce and everything! 😉

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