Apparently I’m up for a week of REVEALS (coming up next – ‘Everything, REVEALED!’ (kidding)) and as it’s the right time to
chum the water start laying the groundwork for the incredible mass-post, compassion-frenzy on the 20th February, as 1000+ Voices Speak for Compassion, I thought I’d make a small bit of a song and dance (in words, cos I can do that…totes!) about what it is, what I’m gonna do about it, what it means to me, and what YOU can do about it.
What it is: A group of as many people as possible – bloggers, vloggers, instagrammers, tweeters, musicians, poets, artists – all releasing SOMETHING on February 20th, on the subject of compassion. And putting them into one (or two, or several) ma-HOU-ssive linkies. Because compassion matters – it’s a good thing and it helps us to Be The Village for each other. A long time ago, I fell in love with a place called Our Land, where compassion, empathy and wonder RULE. Since then, the SisterWives have created a safe space online for people to share things which are difficult for them, because we’re stronger together. Because everyone matters. Because we’re designed for relationships, and no-one should have no-one, and in this day and age, no-one should feel alone or unacceptable or as though they aren’t worthwhile.
But we forget all that too easily, and get swamped by the overwhelming negativity which tries to wrap itself around our souls and tries to choke us. This is to redress the balance a little in terms of what’s ‘out there’. Ouf! With me so far?
What I’m gonna do about it: Well, in addition to helping the other admin-y types manage the INCREDIBLE 1000Speak Facebook group, I’m going to write. I’m going to keep sharing stories of compassion as I come across them in the run-up to The Big Day, and I’m going to start drafting my own post for the day.
I’m not looking forward to the latter task.
Because I’m going to write about self-compassion – the thing I am absolutely, definitely, NO GOOD-VERY BAD-AWFUL at doing.
Why it matters to me: The thing is, despite how much I really don’t want to write on this subject, I think it does matter, and as much as it’s probably going to be some kind of cathartic/learning/deep emotional experience/spiritual revelation for me, there’s another level to it, which is that I’m not that special. It stands to reason that there are other people out there who, like me, could write til the cows come home about compassion for others, and who are their own worst critics, and regularly guilty of being their own judge, jury and executioner.
So it will be me – executioning – falling on my sword for the sake not only of myself, but to try to untangle the issue a bit for the people who will resonate with my outlook. I know they’re out there, and I want them to know they’re not alone.
There will be guts everywhere!
But that’s partly what this is all about, too. It’s not about having something shiny-fabu-wonderful, because life isn’t LIKE that. Life very rarely gives us the rainbow-sparkle version of itself, no matter how much we might like it to. Life is hard and challenging and difficult and wonderful and beautiful and sometimes we taste triumph, but more often than not it’s a slog, or battling the down-turns, and it’s MESSY.
I doubt there’s a person in the world who will tell you that they feel their life is genuinely without some form of struggle, yet there are those who find ways to beat themselves up over the small things and the failings (perceived or real), hold themselves to impossible, exacting standards, and fail utterly at keeping up with them (me), whilst others have learned the art of self-compassion, and they manage to navigate the mess without adding to the trauma by keelhauling themselves in its wake.
I want to learn that art. I want to be able to manage life without constantly reverting to ways of thinking which leave me drowning in a miserable sense of failure and inadequacy. I want to look into a mirror and see (mostly) just a person, not a poster-child for ‘Ways To Get It Wrong’.
I want to learn to be content in my own skin, and in my own brain, and to live with a little more grace and a bit less self-obsession.
Soooooo, I guess I best get sharpening that sword.
What you can do about it: JOIN IN!
You don’t have to spill your guts – I promise – but if you take part somehow, on ANY kind of social media platform, on February 20th, letting the world know that you’re putting something out there for 1000Speak, and relating something to do with compassion and why it matters to you, then you add weight and unique perspective to a movement which I think is the most exciting I’ve been involved with yet.
Find us at the 1000Speak blog
Use the #1000Speak hashtag on Twitter and Instagram
Promote this movement everywhere you can, and keep checking back to see how it’s going. Spread the word – we can’t do it alone.
We really are stronger together – 1000Speak needs YOU! Join the village, and BRING the difference.