Ten Things of Thankful #64

I don’t want to be here this week. I know a great place we can go instead – there are wonderful green leather armchairs we can cosy ourselves into; mounted tropical butterflies lining the walls; a table full of books and magazines to peruse; a curiosity cabinet full of pieces of art and history; swathes of beautiful fabric lining the ceiling, making it feel like a cross between a Victorian reading room and an African souk; exquisite interior design (at the moment probably geared for autumn, with pumpkins and branches and bright, flame-coloured leaves and spangled harvest fruits).

And there is tea in teapots, and china cups, and cake…oh the CAKE! It’s made by someone who used to provide them to cruise ships, and they are *stunningly* beautiful creations. They taste as every bit as good as they look…

We could just sit there, enjoying each others’ company and putting the world to rights, sharing our moments of gratitude without time pressure or the need to be anywhere else. We could talk about something and nothing and all the things under the sun, and spend moments in silences which don’t need to be filled, and take time to just exist for a bit…do you fancy it?

Tea Cake and Time To Just BE

Wouldn’t it be lovely?

In lieu, here are my Ten, sans complicated numbering systems (for your convenience), and in spite of another week of various difficulties in a number of ways, I’m here, I’ve got my Glennon-approved ‘Perspecticles’ on, and I’m ready to go.

I wrote this week about the massive, HUGE silver linings which can be found in friendships, and the manner in which we all belong to each other, and need one another’s presence in our lives. The response was HUGE, and my readers (many of whom I am delighted to also call friends) seemed to really like it. I’m pleased, because it originated from snippets of conversation with a dear friend of mine, in which we were sharing our woes and both trying to shore one another up. I wrote the post for her, and she really liked it, but also that it resonated with so many more people is rather wonderful.

In fact, it resonated so much with Lisa (you know her, don’t you? She’s a regular on the TToT, an all-round super-nice person, and former co-host of the hop. She’s Good People) that she took the time and effort to send me a beautiful and very meaningful quote (below), and with Sarah so much that she sent me a song, and then we had a lovely chat about music. So I am *definitely* thankful for email, and the people I have in it.

There is a sacredness in tears. They are not a mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are the messengers of overwhelming grief, of deep contrition and of unspeakable love.

(Washington Irving)

Friendships have been rather a lot on my mind this week, and I have been massively, massively grateful once again for a few of my ‘Lifeboats’, who were happy to chat with me and talk me through a rather large wobble last weekend. I don’t like wobbles, and this was an accumulation of a few of them, and the people I spoke with were kind, non-judgemental, very soothing, and very helpful. I have been calmer this week because of them, and I am thankful times a million for their input and support.

I also learned the delight of a sudden and unexpected, very friendly glitterbomb, this time from the lovely Kim, who writes at My Inner Chick, and who sent me a gorgeous card filled with glitter and a real kiss, which made me smile no end.

Then there was the incredibly surprising, touching, and entirely beautiful (also gorgeously wordy, considering-y and completely wonderful) post *just for me*, which was written my my new friend who I stalk, Crystal. I don’t want to scare her too much (though after discovering that she writes thinkfully and creates poetry and loves the Oxford comma, I *might* have already told her I’m a little in love) but I am cock-a-hoop that the Blogosphere allows such wonderful, brand-new connections with people I would never normally have the opportunity to come across. So I’ll just tell you all this ‘qwiet’ly and hope she doesn’t mind too much πŸ˜‰

After last Friday’s debacle, I went and sorted out boxing class. I was offered a free trial at a beautiful upstairs-gymnasium in an OLD building, in a gorgeous, blond-floored room of wrought ironwork, punchbags and skylights, with a boxing ring brooding in the corner, and an old guy in a tracksuit who absolutely beasted us, a younger guy who yelled a lot, and a gorgeous, *twinklysparklysmiley* dreadlocked chap with THEE MOST BUFFEST arms everrrrrowrrrrrr! who instructed me on how to improve my technique. I will be GOING BACK.

There was also a very nice girl there, who (upon seeing that I had no-one to partner with, and was new) came right over and offered to work with me, and who showed great patience with my non-remembering of the order of punches and the names of them and the general ‘how to boxing’, which seemed to utterly elude me. She also loaned me her gloves, AND helped me out of them when I got stuck in them. Twice*.

What else is there? I feel like I need a re-fill of tea at this point…


Nice smells on cycle rides. Bit of a weird one, but cycling past boxes of petunias or hedgerows of fennel or verges where wild garlic is growing, is actually a rather delightful experience – you get these kind of gently perfumed pockets of air to travel through, and it’s rather lovely. What else is rather lovely is that I was cycling earlier and the sun came out and just SHONE on me – right in my face – and I couldn’t help but smile and just glory in it a bit. Goodness knows what I must have looked like to passers-by!

Things which remind me of people – that’s something else I really like. I had a few moments this week where I came across things which reminded me of people – there were Hot Tamales in my cupboard, which reminded me of Dyanne. There are songs on my MP3 player, which remind me of Sandy and of Hasty. And there’s a lady who I see walking across the park where I cycle to work each morning, who reminds me of Kate. So that’s nice.

My final Thing (coincidentally) is a place where MUCH cake (or, pictures thereof) can be found, though it’s not what I use it for. Pintrest. I love it more and more and more, because often when I’m feeling in a low mood, I pop over there and find beautiful pictures of the world, of flowers, of creatures, of tattoos, of clouds, of amazincredible art, of BOOKS, and add them to my boards with the kind of glee which can only really be understood by someone who has habitually made collections of things through life. When I was a kid it was keyrings and stuffed toys and marbles and books, and now I’m grown-up(ish), it’s books and shells and friends and…pins! Brilliant πŸ˜€

TEN. And no, we don’t have to go home yet πŸ™‚
*I know it sounds ludicrous, but when your arms and hands are shaking from more push-ups and punches than you knew you had in you, and your fingers are curled around and your thumbs stuck in those massive ploofy boxing-glove-thumbs, it’s actually IMPOSSIBLE to undo velcro straps. At all.


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    • I think the thing you have is probably a better thing, but here – I’ll show you the song. It’s from one of the videos you posted of your dance class, and I was BLOWN AWAY, and loved the song and the dancing, and had to go and trawl YouTube to find it. Now every time I listen to it, I think of you dancing at your class, and I smile, because I’m thinking of you πŸ™‚ – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ifkBc6Vcep8


  1. I loathe push ups. I can do them but I really hate them and this is the reason why; they were the ‘punishment’ in Tae Kwon Do and I will always link push-ups to a specific dickhead that loved to issue punishment. Because he could. Anyway, I can’t do them now because of the continuing recuperation of my shoulder but once I CAN do them again I just might knock out a few because that will be a signal of the end of the shoulder injury.


    • Yeah – then you can OWN them and make them your own, for your own reason.

      The beasting tonight was less bad, thank goodness. But the (different) lady I was partnered with had one HELLUVA hook, which I think my shoulder muscles will regret taking on the pads so many times, in the morning. BUT it’s fun, and I’m going to keep it up this time.

      I hope you heal quickly.

      Sports coaches being dicks should be slapped.


    • Awh that’s okay m’dear…I’ve been stalking you on Facebook and Instagram (and down your road) and I know you’ve had loads of good, busy, Real Life going on πŸ™‚

      This community’s fab. So are you β™‘


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  3. 82!
    I took boxing for a little while. It was really, really HARD. My arms would get so tired, I couldn’t lift them up anymore. It’s a great workout, though. Have fun with it!
    I love Sara Bareilles. And Lisa. And Hot Tamales. And cake.

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    • And mellowcreme pumpkins – I must check back and see how your contest is going. I think at last count I saw a plausible reason from Sandy…

      And wow, yes to the arms being so tired afterwards – totally and definitely the case, that! Makes cycling home again afterwards rather a hoot! I’m looking forward to it though πŸ™‚

      I KNOW you like Hot Tamales – that’s what reminded me of you – I found the open box in the cupboard (the same one I told you MONTHS ago that I had) and I smiled to myself, because I thought of you rolling your eyes and telling me there is no way on EARTH they would have lasted the same length of time in your cupboard. I had three, and put the box back so I can rediscover it in another few months and think the same thought πŸ™‚


  4. Ever played “Anywhere but here?” That’s what your intro did to me. I’d LOVE to be in that cafΓ©. I was at a baptism this afternoon where the hosts described the British Columbia island commune where the sister-in-law had been raised. Suspicion of rotting teeth due to zero dental notwithstanding? Questionable electricity, gardening, homeschooling, an island community only reachable by boat and communal living? Sounded lovely compared to how I view my daily grind.

    I think we all sometime want that island. But for what it’s worth from this view your “here” this week sounds like it had much good. As for Brave? Everytime I hear it, I think of you. :).

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    • I think of Sandy when I hear it, because I feel as though she’s the one who ‘gave’ me the song πŸ™‚ It’s nice to have reminders of other people, isn’t it? πŸ™‚

      Yes – you’re right about wanting that island; that peace and quiet and the lessening of the things which constantly demand of us…if not just the inner peace we feel the island would provide. I have a dear friend (the one who inspired Beauty from Brokenness) who has been on retreats with nuns and she says that she’s almost been compelled to join, as she’s found it so incredibly peaceful.

      If you ever come to visit, I’ll take you to that cafe – it really is wonderful.


  5. ****We could just sit there, enjoying each others’ company and putting the world to rights, sharing our moments of gratitude without time pressure or the need to be anywhere else.***

    A sentence that must be shaded in vivid yellow!

    I love your gratitude, insight, and encouragement for the universe, Sweets. XXXXXX Glitter & Love from Minnesota.

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    • Awwwh thanks, and I am still sat here next to my beautiful, sparkly, glitterbomb card from you, and there is DEFINITELY glitter and love from Minnesota, right here in my living room πŸ™‚

      I love that sentence – I wish life could be more like that.


  6. The description of the smells of your bike rides sound interesting. I imagine that everytime you smell that combination of scents, you will think of bike riding, whether or not you are riding at the time. Everytime I smell lemon and eucalyptus, I’m immediately transported back 25+ years ago, when John and I would go to an outdoor theater set among those trees.

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  7. So real comment now…I’m emerging from my sick bed long enough to try and read a few posts and get mine posted.
    I’m go glad you loved the quote – I just knew you would. And I have to say I am so sad to be a “former” co-host because I absolutely loved doing it. The timing was all wrong, though, and I was so overwhelmed. That was back when I was trying to get through to the end of the school year with my sanity intact and figure out a way to not go back. NAILED IT!
    Yay for boxing – great in so many ways. πŸ˜€

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    • Yay indeed for boxing.

      And boo for ‘former’ but you did do a FABULOUS job while you were ‘in role’ and you’re still a vital part of the TToT community, so I’m just glad we didn’t lose you completely, but it wasn’t worth your sanity to keep trying to keep up with this each weekend on top of everything else you had going on. I think you made the right decision.

      I love the quite. It’s really great,

      Hope you feel better soon 😦 Take it easy x


      • Yup, that’s exactly it. Life’s changed a lot, though, and very different now. So if you ever need someone again, call me.
        Working on feeling better…so frustrating. But the Hub and Kidzilla are awesome and patient and managing to keep the place from falling apart until I get myself up and running again.

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        • Well done them. I’m *meant* to be doing that cos Husby’s not too well this weekend, but I’m tired and am just letting things slide. Not the best, but I’ve never lauded myself as particularly housewife-y.

          And yes – certainly if I end up with a co-host spot open, I’ll come back to you πŸ™‚ I’m glad things are different now. They needed to be.

          Rest and keep healing πŸ™‚


  8. wait a minute! did I Comment already, or am I hearing echoes of future forgetfulness

    (that’s the trouble with hanging out with clarks… sort of projectile/projected deja vu )
    totally like the imagery of the Victorian (with a touch of Steampunk) English Library, all featherdustered and oil-of-wormwood, french-speaking maids and confident butlers (gentleman’s gentleman)… and a large, wooden globe of the world.
    the frequency of seeing clarks navigate the stormier parts of our realities seems to be increasing, the benefit I can feel, but really yet define.

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    • Seems to be on the up, doesn’t it? Bah humbug to that – I’m sure we’ve learned all we need to by now, don’t you think?

      You’d LOVE the cafe place – it’s definitely a place which engenders thinking. And there’s cake. And I love it. There’s also a large (non-functioning) gramophone, which is rather delightful.

      Projectile deja-vu…interesting image there.


  9. I could have sworn I commented on this last night but I’d love to go to the lovely green armchair place with you for tea and cake and laughter. I’m so very glad that you have so many lifeboats. It’s everything, especially during the weeks that are confusing and full of hope and grief and doubt and ugh all at once. Sending lots of hugs and cheers to you for doing the boxing thing! My dad was a boxer for a while but quit because he decided his arms were too short. That’s one of those funny stories told to me years ago that I’d forgotten until reading of your boxing fun. I’ll bed you look like a badass!

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    • I hope I look like a badass, then perhaps I won’t have to hit anyone, because I will exude confidence and capability. That’s the plan πŸ˜€

      His arms were too short? Wow! That’s quite a reason to quit, but understandable I guess. My arms today are just too SORE.

      Thanks so much for the hugs and the chats and the helping me keep it together. You and my other lifeboat friends are proving time and time again that I am so, SO lucky to have you in my life and am so very blessed by your friendship. Thank you. Millions.

      I would LOVE to take you to the green armchair place and have tea and cake with you. It would be wonderful πŸ™‚


  10. I’m all for tea and nice smells on bike rides. And sooo glad you were brave and went to boxing class. I had a private lesson once for something I was writing and LOVED it. I so wish there was a group here I could join. hugs and friends are saviors.

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    • My friends have saved me today and no mistake.

      Boxing is super fun but SO difficult and such hard work – I swear, my arms nearly gave out on me because I press-upped so much, and there was NO PUNCH left in me by the end. I’m still sore now! Gonna go back Monday πŸ˜€

      Tea is always good, and nice smells on bike rides are a delightful added dimension πŸ™‚


  11. I had so much to say but now all I can think about is cake…oh! Right!

    Good for you on the boxing classes. I will tell you this, when I took kickboxing classes, it relieved so much stress. Beat the crap out of something and the release is incredible. Notice I said someTHING…like a heavy bag. I don’t fancy jail.

    I love Pinterest too and have been trying to behave since you can get lost there for HOURS! But then you started posting stuff (butterflies) and I thought the new board would be fun, and it is.

    I know the week has been ick. And I know you will reach out to the many people are ready to catch you if and when you fall. So I’ll just wait here….

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  12. I never would have fancied you a Pinterest person. Of course, I steer clear of Pinterest, so I have no idea what is out there or what a Pinterest person looks like. Glad you are enjoying it and finding it useful.
    You’ve gathered quite a wonderful group of people around you here in internet land. It makes me happy to see you so loved.
    Man, I want some of that cake.

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    • I want to take you out for cake to this place…NEXT TIME, ‘kay?

      Pintrest is super for lifting the spirits a bit, or getting lost in distraction (which is really just as helpful). I like it immensely. It’s better than Twitter, almost (but without the connectivity, so I kind of still prefer the place with the people).

      And yes, I feel very blessed that people have allowed me to gather them into one place of wonderful friendship, and that they’re willing to support me and extend care towards me, especially when things are rocky. I appreciate it HUGE. And thank you for you, and for your friendship and your portion of care and advice.


  13. I want cake.

    I love everything about this post and everything about all the love that not only radiates from YOUR heart for others, but others for YOU in return. Ah… the power of love. I absolutely adore that Kim sent you a glitter bomb with a kiss! And Lisa nailed it with that quote!!

    And all the other amazing things you shared about life, deep thinking and silver linings…hard stuff and soft stuff threaded together make a life worth living.

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    • Yes…that’s what I’m hanging onto today. Gradually coming out of a hard place with awful sharp edges into a place filled with beautiful, wonderful friends, and thanking my lucky stars that they’ve chosen me, and that they’ve allowed me to matter to them.

      Kim’s glitterbomb was beautiful. And Lisa’s quote. And I wanted to link your vid but….SO LONG, dude! But I love that you got glitterbombed by me again πŸ˜€ ❀


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  15. I love the sound of that place with the cake, it’s so beautiful and comfy in my mind! I WANT TO GO TO THERE WITH YOU! Either there or the Harry Potter theme park because that would be thee most delicious combination of adorable Britishness πŸ™‚
    I love Pinterest too! Especially around Halloween time! But if you find the right people that pin art and beautiful photos, it’s amazing! I hope this coming week is better. Sooo are you going to keep up the boxing?? P.S. “Punchbag” is my new nickname for people now! “Hey Punchbag, cut that out!” πŸ™‚

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    • LOL Just make sure no-one thinks you’re USING the other people as a punchbag. Yes – I hope to go back on Monday. I’m still SO SORE today though.

      Pintrest full of Autumn is a little upsetting – I would rather summer were to stay, but I’m finding lovely things anyway.

      Apparently the Harry Potter thing in the US is a better experience than the one here. So there’s that. But I would DEFINITELY take you for cake at the wonderful place. It would be delightful and we could sit and read and chat and eat cake and drink tea and have a time-out from life.


  16. Another lovely place to go. Tea and cake and books. Your week sounds like an emotional roller coaster, but I’m glad things calmed down and the love and support uplift you.

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    • I went today (needed it) and we weren’t allowed to sit on the green leather chairs as they were reserved for a party of people having high tea, so we ensconced ourselves on a day-bed full of cushions and ate cake and read some of the books, and it was…lovely and necessary.


    • It’s okay Susan, and I hope things are well with you. There’s never an obligation to join in, but you’re in my thoughts πŸ™‚

      The smell of wild garlic at the side of the road is delectable. And Brave…very inspiring song.


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  18. πŸ˜€ This was a beautifully written post Lizzi. Yay for the sun shining on your face…. it is the little things. And yay for boxing class and getting someone to help you.

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    • Thanks so much – YES – Life in Silver Linings – sometimes it’s the little glimmers which keep us going to the next moment – the sunshine was AWESOME and I’m in the mood for more. We’ll see whether Autumn will oblige…

      And ABSOLUTELY – it’s so important to me that I felt comfortable there, and not left out. Thank goodness for this awesome girl and her willingness to just walk up to someone new and join them in. I hope I have the same courage in other situations πŸ™‚

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  21. I fancy your lovely little place quite a lot . . . It sounds rather divine, I would like to stay for an extended while . . . and no worries, you cannot scare me, unless you intend to surprise me in a clown suit, I’m good. I love that you included me in your thankful post, I think I may be beaming a bit.

    Ya know, I worried I wouldn’t find a place here in Blogville, but I am settling in nicely and am grateful to have you as a neighbor :o)

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    • The Blogosphere is one of those wonderful, malleable, definitely non-Newtonian kind of places, where I think we all end up staring across a Mobius strip at each other, wondering if the grass is greener on the other side. Fortunately we all fit, and no matter our niche, there are people out there who’ll fit. You fit here, and I think I fit in over chez toi, which is awesome πŸ™‚

      My lovely little place is b-e-a-uuuuuutiful. If you ever end up in this neck of the woods, I’ll take you there πŸ™‚ It’s quite delightful.

      And no, I don’t intend to scare you by turning up in a clown suit, though I take on the role fairly often. And I’m GLAD you’re beaming πŸ˜€


  22. I read your silver linings post, and I’m glad you have so many of them in your life. You share about all the connections and friendships you’ve made online, and it makes my heart glad. The image of you with boxing gloves, pummeling the bag, also makes my heart glad. And giggle a little. I have purple boxing gloves – let’s spar when you come to the States πŸ™‚

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    • DO YOU?! WOW! That’s awesome. I need to get some gloves – I only have the wraps at the moment (in black) and I kind of want to check that I really AM going to stick with this before I invest in any more gear. But I’m glad it made you giggle. It was HOT WORK though! Wow! I think I lost about 2lb in water!

      I have SO many silver linings in my life. And in addition, so many wonderful friends, like you, my hope-holder πŸ™‚ And that makes *my* heart glad. ❀


  23. We have donuts at our house. Those are going to substitute for cake. Especially since I finished the blackberry cobbler. You can count on Lisa for a good quote. That girl has literature at her fingertips!
    I am thankful for your friendship post.

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  24. I would love to go to that place with you. It sounds perfect. Everyone could do with more tea and cake.

    I read your note about Crystal as, “creates poetry for the Oxford comma.”
    I now need some Oxford comma-celebrating poetry.

    Yay for boxing class and a new friend to help you learn.

    Love that Brave song. Sometimes I put it on repeat and crank the volume.

    I’m adding my Wednesday post to the linky (normally I would never cheat like that), because it is my thankfulness for this week. I don’t have ten things, but at the same time, I think this counts as ten things when I think about it really hard. It is tough and amazing all at the same time.

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    • Noooo that’s fine about the Wednesday post – I’m not worried really – it counts. You have my full seal of approval πŸ™‚ No problem there. Any worries with those seven GuardVirgins pestering you about it and you just let me know.

      ‘Brave’ is an awesome song, and I felt brave for having done a brand new thing with people I didn’t know. But i was SUPER glad that someone befriended me.

      Will you write the poetry for the Oxford comma? That would be AWESOME πŸ˜€

      And yes – tea and cake does a LOT to help matters. Always.


  25. I would love to meet you there and it want a bad week just completely hectic with Emma starting kindergarten. So tried tonight and just don’t have much more energy to do anything else right now, but of course stopping go by to let you know I was thinking of you. Hugs from this side of the pond now πŸ˜‰

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