Lovelies, it’s time to announce the inception of a brand new award.
I’ve been presented with a number of blogging awards in the past few months, and they’re truly wonderful things, given (and passed on) largely in recognition of the style and quality and content of a fellow blogger’s writing, and how it speaks to you.
But each time I complied with the rules and chose my five or ten or eleven bloggers to be nominated to receive the award from me, I felt horribly uncomfortable and discomfited, because important people – important to me people – were missing out.
The recognitions were for writing, or for sisterhood, or for sunshine…and while these are all well and good and completely wonderful, sometimes the people on the internet who I’ve become close to, and who matter to me, begin to take precedent over the content or style of their blog.
They are more than ‘just bloggers’ to me – they matter, and have become friends.
I’ve referred enough to this concept that you’ve probably all read it before here – the idea that I’ve (in a small but significant way) ‘hard-wired’ my heart: plugged it into the internet and allowed myself to explore and enjoy the treasure which is ‘Being Friends Online’.
It’s new territory, and for some it may seem too surreal – to not have face-to-face time (but wait, there’s video chat…) or to be stuck in different time-zones (it’s fine – messages in print can be seen hours later without losing their meaning) or to even know the basics like what a person’s voice sounds like…how tall they are…how they walk…their mannerisms and facial expressions (you can figure these out yourselves – there’s sufficient social media capability in the world to allow for these too, to be revealed).
But here’s the thing: with the removal of all the traditional face-to-face social constructs, we bypass the distractions (like “Is she more fashionable than me?”, “Why does he do that irritating thing with his eyebrows?”, “I wish she’d get off her phone and stop texting while we’re meant to be spending time together” and even the stomach clenching “I’ve run out of things to say…”) and get to know the very essence of a person.
Our heart and soul, poured through our fingertips, into letters, to be read and understood by our intended.
It’s a new world, lovelies, and it’s beautiful. But it needs more recognition.
So here’s the new award: The Hardwired Heart Award.
And it’s not just for bloggers – it’s for ANYONE.
As with all awards – the rules:
1) Nominate as many people as you like – but you have to say WHY they mean so much to you. Declare it proudly and shout it from the rooftops.
2) If you receive one, try to pass it on to at least one other person.
So with no further ado, the first round of nominations (because honestly, there are so many that I can’t begin to tackle them all at once – keep a weather eye for more in upcoming posts)
Dana – Kiss My List – so sweet and wonderful and manages to provide much-needed common sense, care and concern when appropriate, and the occasional influx of loveliness which has the ability to make me go quite soppy, perhaps more than once in the day. Dana is particularly important to me, as she is one of the people who offered to hold onto my baby hopes for me, when the pain of holding onto them myself became too much. What an incredible, wonderful lady she is.
Julie – Next Life No Kids – I’ve mentioned her before, as well – my Bad Juju, who always turns out Good. She’s always utterly truthful and brooks no obfuscation, but has a beautiful, incredible heart and a soul which shines for others. She is fierce and fearless and completely wonderful and I adore her.
Janine – Janine’s Confessions of a Mommyholic – another hope-holder, incredible supporter, who always, but ALWAYS has something positive to say, and is usually first here to say it. I’ve developed a theory that she’s Santa Claus’s kid, because she’s able to travel the internet impossibly fast and make first comment on so, SO many people’s posts. She also shares so freely and so beautifully about her family and her life and her happinesses, that it makes me happy to know her.
Melissa – Home on Deranged – who is a quiet, small voice here, but away from the public arena, a HUGE amount of fun to know, as well as a person who has precious insights to share with me, which she does cheerfully and with great humour, tenderness and understanding. She plays a mean game of Scrabble and is one of those people who I know absolutely always has my back.
Shanique – BZNaturalista – who has been off in Police Boot-Camp, but who rapidly made the transition from ‘fellow blogger’ to friend, and whom I miss very much (she hasn’t a great deal of time online these days). She is one of the first people I was able to come out of my shell with. She has a wonderful and hugely beautiful perspective on life, and she is generous to a fault – she will tell me off for being up too late, or she will sing to me when I’m sad, or even tell me a bedtime story over live chat. I think she’s absolutely AwesomeRockin’.
Clark – The Wakefield Doctrine – founder, instigator and genius behind the Wakefield Doctrine, this guy intrigued me from the get-go, and then when I discovered that he KNEW – he UNDERSTOOD MY BRAIN – I had to keep going back to find out more, and more, and eventually (with enough pushing on my part) he accepted me as part of his group of outsiders, and I consider him a dear friend and guru.
Denise – Girlie On The Edge – whom I found through the Wakefield Doctrine, and who can write and talk in such beautiful circles which (to me) make absolute sense. She’s a quiet one, and apt to sit and watch and take everything in before coming out with something pertinent or hilarious. Still waters run deep with this one, and she amazes me for being able to do everything from arguing to learning to be her own car mechanic to pondering the mysteries of the universe with such dignity and glamour.
Cyndi – Pictimilitude – to whom I couldn’t return her own award, but who DEFINITELY gets this one. We are in the same boat in so many ways, and I take such enjoyment in the beauty of her words and the world she shares through her photographs and art, and such solace in the togetherness we share in our lack of babies and our heartache and our grief. But through the wonder of the internet, we can be there for one another, and I truly cherish her.
Zoe – Rewritten – my dear, dear fellow Bard, who writes so beautifully and who just KNOWS so much. And is so much, and so encouraging and hilarious and wonderful, and caring, even from a (geographical) distance. She sent me a genuine Winter Survival Pack, and she can say ‘Schnookered’ in a way I will never, ever get tired of hearing.
Michelle – Getting Literal – who is simply inspiring and positive and incredible to chat to and always full of good, sensible advice and who has been just such a HUGE support and encouragement to me. She’s also incredibly good fun to video-chat with, and sharing this experience with her is often a high spot of my weekend.
Marcia – Menopausal Mom – who I was awed by from the start because of her incredible humour, but who is a truly sweet and caring lady, with much to say in conversation and a huge amount of appealability (dodgy Lime Jello Salad recipes notwithstanding) and who I am so enjoying getting to know.
Kristen – Mrs Always Random (But Usually Shallow) – who is a source of encouragement, support, prayer and that life-changing recipe for Caramel Salted Pretzel Bark. I owe much to this wonderful lady, and consider her friendship a boon.
Rich – That’s Life Sometimes – who is (supposedly) hiding from the blogging world right now, because he works a million hours a week and somehow still finds time to write the occasional absolute mind-blow of a post. He is the Big Daddy of blogging, and he is hilarious, poignant, relatable and outrageous in equal measure. He is also a genuine and caring chap, and I have had many causes to appreciate and value his insight and input.
Sandy – Mother of Imperfection – who found ME, and set up camp and won me over with her incredible enthusiasm, encouragement and sheer joy of being. She’s another person who has the ability to write me a comment which makes me go all soppy at the edges. She’s also hilarious and sweet and completely awesome.
Piper – Talk About Cheesecake – who, is so much fun to know, to go off into flights of storytelling with, to chat with on Twitter in between patients at work, and just to have a laugh with. She’s frank, funny, sweet and a true gem.
Jenergy – Hysterical Casserole – who makes me laugh like a DRAIN, keeps me in her cupboard as her #BadCopyEditor, and who is just full of wonder and delight and all things awesome. She is like a shiny, glittery, noisy-toy-you-can’t-turn-off, and I am SO pleased to know her.
Kate – Can I Get Another Bottle of Whine (with my morning quiet time) – who writes one of the first blogs I ever read, and is the stalwart co-host of one of the first blog hops I ever joined, and who is funny, funny, funny, but also a person with many depths and layers of wonderful, which shine through at different times. She’s also writing a book about adoption, which is a topic dear to my heart, and which I can’t wait to read because I know that her insights will be so valuable to my understanding.
To each of these, I say thank you so, so much for being part of my online world, and for your friendship, even across wires and distances, because it’s the YOU in it, which makes it so wonderful.
If you need a refresher for why my ‘usual suspects’ all get this award too, read all about it over here: