I may or may not have gotten to you for a comment this weekend – I’ve been rather wonderfully busy (more on that later) but I’ll announce NOW that next week there will be a BIG EXCITING CHRISTMAS GIVEAWAY as part of Ten Things, so do make sure you come back and sign up for that 🙂 Actual REAL present involved, ‘kay?
Because my weekend has been completely and gloriously filled with my wonderful Bezzie-Friend-In-The-Whole-World, I thought I’d dedicate this post to her, because she’s totally worth it and makes my life AWESOME.
1. In two years’ time, we will have known each other for more than half our lives. Which is totally and utterly wonderful, and we’re going to have a big celebration of some kind or another, just to revel in the sheer delight of having so many years of each other’s company.
2. She is ALWAYS up for a mad idea or a mess or anything zany, and in the photo below (one of my favourites of us, though the best part of ten years old) we’d been eating profiteroles and somehow decided to draw on each other with the sauce, mostly to irritate her then boyfriend, who was a neat-freak and started getting decidedly upset about the mess we were making, before he eventually cracked and pinned us each down and forcibly cleaned our faces because he couldn’t cope with the chocolate-in-the-wrong-place any more. This, whilst we giggled helplessly.
3. She is smart(er than me, probably) and also a wordsmith, so we ADORE doing things like discussing our favourite books or having flash poetry competitions (just because we can) or even just playing with words in conversation. We’re also able to help one another out with words, like today whilst buying lunch, she stopped, irritated to have used ‘inexplicably’ in a context where the nuance was slightly ‘else’, and I was able to supply ‘inexorably’, at which point she grinned a HUGE grin and agreed that THIS was the word she’d been aiming for.
4. She might just be the other half of my brain. We frequently think the same thought or say the same thing at the same time. We can achieve this whether we’re face to face, on the phone, or messaging online. And it’s glorious.
5. We have our own secret code for when that happens. A physical one for when it happens face to face, a noise one for on the phone, and a text one for when it happens online. And I LOVE it. And it’s Ours, so I’ll tell you we have it, but not what it is 😉
6. We are each absolutely perfectly comfortable in one another’s space. We come into the home (of whoever’s hosting the meet-up) and put the kettle on and start finding the milk and rifling through the cupboards. When we are together, we are AT home. She’s family.
7. That we can do mad, silly things together like eat too much pizza, drink a million cups of tea, laugh over bodily functions, talk forever, hold hands and skip down the road, play on the swings, and absolutely not care what ANYONE thinks, because we’re enjoying us some Bezzie-Time. And that’s all that matters. I found this image (below) a while ago and it absolutely describes the pair of us.
We are all things together – brash, sarcastic, hilarious, whimsical, devious, helpful, wonderful…the list could go on forever. We are as comfortable in one another’s company when talking as when silent. She is one of the few people I feel safe to show all my feelings to, and I’m pretty sure I am to her, as well.
We go on adventures together. We walk barefoot in the ocean. We talk for hours into the night. We prank one another as often as possible. We both love books more than is healthy (if that’s possible). We’re HILARIOUS drunk (in fact, she provided safe space for me to experience my first ever ‘drunk’, many years ago…and oboy! Suffice to say that I didn’t touch alcohol for many many years after that, because we did the job so properly!)
8. That she realises how very important Nap Time is (and that’s how I’ve got time to write this, towards the end of the afternoon, because we’re shortly going to be baking pumpkin pie and Salted Caramel Pretzel Bark, and having more tea, and then staying up late and watching movies and chatting and drinking and basking in each other’s company).
9. That in spite of the fact we’ve not seen each other face to face for a shamefully long time (like, MONTHS, people! Ohmigosh I’ve missed her!) we always pick up exactly where we left off, and it’s as though mere moments have passed since we last saw one another.
10. That, in being Best Friends for (nearly over) half our lives, we’ve been there for one another through some of (each of) our most harrowing, heartbreaking, challenging times, as well as the awesomely very good ones, and that we’re able to tell one another anything (and we do), and that we share such a long and convoluted history of taking turns to look after one another as the other person’s life has come crashing down around their ears, that we share some of the same battle scars. We have been constant forces for Good in each other’s lives, and have grown closer as a result. We are one another’s secret-keepers and I think I have more shared history with her than anyone else (bar one or two blood relatives). She is an absolute treasure and God-send, and I am truly a million percent blessed to have her friendship.
So, my dear friend – here’s to the next two years, and then the rest of our lives xXx
P.S. Dear friends of TToT – just so’s you know, once she’d read this, she got all soppy and teary-eyed and stuck pumpkin down my neck (from love, obv) and then laughed because she realised how close I’d come to chopping my fingers off with the VERYSHARP knife I was using to dismember the pumpkin at the time…she promised that if I HAD lost a finger, she would’ve driven me to the hospital and laughed (only a little bit) as she told the doctors HOW I came to lose said finger…