Deus in machina

I guess by now you all know how much I adore Social Media.

Not just that it’s fun and immediate, and a source of constant, wonderful input; but that it’s entirely possible to build meaningful relationships there. Proper ones. Friendships which nurture and encourage and support and provide…well, everything good about a friendship which hasn’t to do with the In Real Life bit – the hugs and face-to-face time and going out for coffee – that kind of thing.

I’m all for it.

And in fact, when you think that years ago, people’s worlds were so small that they were only friends with those within walking (or riding) distance, and when someone moved away, they were totally reliant on letters to continue the relationship, and that worked, without anyone suggesting that the friendship was any less real because the two parties didn’t see each other face-to-face any more.

We’re better off now, because at least we can upload photographs of our latest escapades and it’s entirely possible to link your concept of a person’s physicality with their soul, conveyed through words, over Social Media, and have a functioning friendship. It is for me, anyway (though I admit, as time goes by, I do like to find out the little, niggling details about someone which would be known factors if we were face-to-face friends – how tall they are; what their voice sounds like; what hand they write with – those small, physical markers which help us to classify and organise our thoughts surrounding a person – our map of them, if you will)

I had a wonderful friend for several years in this way. She was a blogger I started following because her writing spoke to my heart, and one day after many comment-box exchanges, we got properly in touch. It was a very exciting moment for me, seeing as I had her up on such a high pedestal, but she turned out to be very relatable and normal, and not at all lofty. We soon became firm friends.

She was absolutely the best, and we were friends on Facebook and Twitter and would email one another several times a day. We never got as far as Skype, but some people are funny about that, and it didn’t matter. She wrote so beautifully, I felt as though I was there with her. We just ‘got’ each other. Sometimes it felt as though she was the other half of my brain, and she’d say something which perfectly encapsulated the thing I’d been struggling with. Or I’d manage to write something to her which made her jump into happy capital letters, sprinkled with smiley faces and exuberance.

She was very popular though, and gradually, I began to feel a little side-lined. Her blog had turned massive (I was pleased for her – it absolutely deserved to – each new post was filled with wonder and beauty and language which made your brain ache with pleasure) and her Twitter following had edgedΒ  into the tens of thousands. Facebook too – she had more friends than anyone I know, and although I felt special because we definitely still shared something which was more than whatever it was she had with others, she just had a little less time for me.

To say I was upset was to put it mildly. Not only was I sad at the increasing distance between us, if I’m totally honest, I quite liked basking in the reflected (real or imagined) glory of having such a ‘famous’ friend. I admit, I sometimes used to ‘name drop’ that I knew her really well, and that we were great friends, all the while feeling like such a loser – a hypocrite trading on a faded friendship.

One day I emailed her everything. All my thoughts and feelings – my anger at her pushing me to one side as she tried to gain ever more followers and ‘likes’; my hurt at her discarding me now I no longer appeared to be anything more than a distraction from her mission; my sadness at losing her wonderful presence from my life – not being able to Tweet with her from my lunch break, or know that I’d come home to an email from her, brightening my afternoon like drops of molten sunshine.

It took a couple of days, but she replied. She had been stunned and honoured by how deeply I felt, and that she’d been feeling guilty because she felt the same way, and knew that she’d been all the things I’d accused her of, and that she had dealt with that guilt through avoidance rather than engagement. She said she felt bad about that, and had taken measures to fix the problem. She ended with a dose of the ‘old’ her – the one I knew – the excited capital letters, actions described in stars (*wraps you up in enormous hug*) and a plethora of smiley faces.

She was back.

Properly back. And it was beautiful. The next year or so, our friendship not only survived the falling out, but benefitted from it. It was a negative point we could both refer to with humour and a united front of “Let’s not allow that to happen again”, and it became a patch of water under the bridge, which though not current, provided a point of bonding.

I wasn’t sure how she did it, either, but she seemed just as active on her blog, Twitter and Facebook accounts. She even joined Pintrest and had SO many followers there. Once again, I revelled in our friendship and enjoyed the benefits of that reflected glory, this time lived large for all to see.

Until one day I got a panicked series of emails, too quick to respond to sensibly, saying goodbye. Not just a short goodbye, but forever. She said she loved me and cherished our friendship more than I could ever know – that I’d brought sunshine and loveliness to her life with my words and my person and through caring so genuinely much about her. She called me her BFF, and sprinkled a handful of smiley faces – not enough though – I could still feel the tinge of impending doom and crashing finality to her words. She really meant it – it was over.

I felt like the bottom had fallen out of my world – she’d come to mean so much to me.

It wasn’t even to DO with me, she said – it was circumstances at her end – and this was it. She had to give up the computer and never return. I didn’t understand it at all. I cried real tears of hurt and loss as I read. Her emails seemed so panicked, and I was terrified that something awful had happened to her – that there was some horror or threat I didn’t know about – that she hadn’t shared with me – and which I was too far distant geographically to be any use at helping with.

To be reduced to such enforced impotence was the most frustrating, harrowing feeling I think I’ve ever had.

Like every human in a friendship with someone, I wanted to go over there and help fix it. I wanted to hug her and tell her it was okay and that I was there for her.

Tweeting it just isn’t the same. I get that.

Nothing.

No email, Facebook message or Tweet ever elicited a response from her again. Her followers were also outraged. Her blog eventually lapsed and disappeared (I cried again then, even though I’d saved all her posts to my computer) and it felt as though she was gradually being erased from the internet.

I took to trawling Google for any news of her, still so worried that something had happened.

One day, I found the creepiest article, which spuriously linked to her name.

Firefighters in her home town had broken into a small, isolated house after the local residents realised they’d not seen the owner for a while. She was a recluse, they’d said, who was rarely seen in daylight hours, and kept herself to herself. She was youngish and appeared to be a bit socially ‘backwards’, as any attempts to interact with her had always been rebuffed.

When the firefighters broke in, they discovered piles of mail, drifts of dust and spiderwebs – a house which looked long unlived in. But they could see a flickering light in one of the rooms, so went to investigate.

There they found an awful sight – the body of a woman, perfectly preserved and dried out, sat on the sofa with her still-functioning laptop working away on her exposed femurs. Both hands were still poised on the keyboard, and her head, cushioned on a pillow, was still inclined towards the screen, as she sat there, a crispy smile gracing her shrivelled lips.

They said there was evidence surrounding her of hundreds of empty bottles of soda and food packets. They reckoned she must have near enough lived as she died – sat in that corner of her house, plugged into the internet.

They took her away and tested, finding that she’d been dead for over a year, and yet…the email account she’d been using had been active and had sent an email that very day.

The firefighters were baffled.

And as I read the description of that final email – a heartrending goodbye to a distant friend, who she knew she would have to leave forever I felt creeping terror on the back of my neck – it couldn’t have been…

Two Shoes Tuesdsay

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89 thoughts on “Deus in machina

  1. GOD DAMN IT, woman. I’m there reading this, thinking ‘how come you didn’t confide in me about any of these things?!’ and the whole time you’re writing fiction.

    This should be made into a movie script.

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  2. I am visiting from Bloppy Bloggers. I am speechless. Let me just say, it takes a lot to “freak me out.” I am very hard to scare. It just does not happen. I always look to see if I can find where the writer is going with their story (whether it be a book or movie) and you, well, you got me.

    I have re read it three times trying to figure out if this really happened, and wanting to know more. Job well done. I loved this.

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    • Gina, welcome welcome and how glad I am that your first post of mine is one I like so much. I had such fun writing it and I’m very gratified to know how it impacted you. Thanks for such gorgeous feedback πŸ™‚

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  3. That was frigging awesome! I personally love the horror/thriller genre, and this my friend, is one of the best piece I’ve ever read within that category. Great job.

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  4. *grins* I'll tell you a secret – I'm a TOTAL thriller/horror wimp and do NOT engage on purpose – over-active imagination or something…

    Thank you for liking it so much πŸ˜€

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  5. This is unbelievable, Lizzi! WOW! I am so afraid of thrillers that I won't even consider movies or books of the genre, but this…was…OUTRAGEOUS! Thank you for inserting an incredible piece of art into my night of blog hopping. You are such a gifted writer.

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  6. Hang on…

    *checks label*

    …yep – 100% British.

    But thanks – I'm really pleased you enjoyed it, and thank you for letting me know how much πŸ˜€ I'm glad this made your Monday morning a fun one πŸ˜€

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  7. Are you sure you're a Brit? This is perfect Southern American Gothic. Thanks for the chills! The way you started the piece like a blog post and then worked up to the creepiness had me on the edge of my seat. This was way more fun than my usual Monday mornings πŸ™‚

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  8. Ohhhh you know it. And now I'm half-way there, my love – I have my white van (and your address) – I just need to stock up on tempting kittens and candy pumpkins and I'll be there…everywhere you look…

    (is this creepy for anyone else yet?)

    (how does one go about an Idaho accent?)

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  9. *giggles SO MUCH* Ohhhh I just LOVE that you let me know I got to you πŸ˜€

    Don't puke though πŸ˜‰ And don't let me know how gullible you are – that's precious information which can be used for evil means (and you KNOW I will…)

    Mua. Ha. Ha. *rubs hands together gleefully*

    Ahhhhh I feel like I pulled this stunt off VERY nicely indeed. LOVING the reaction πŸ˜€ πŸ˜€ πŸ˜€

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  10. Okay- I am exhausted. I just held my breath the entire time I read this, and kept my eyes glued and my armpits are DRENCHED! As you might say to me…

    BAZINGA!

    I am a bit sick to my stomach. Seriously want to vomit! WOW girl. You just BAZINGA'D me to the point of puking~~~~~~~~~ EEEEEEEEEEK!!! I kept thinking, “who is this girl she was so close with? And kept trying to brainstorm if I would know her…”

    Oh Lizzi. BRAVO. BRAVO.

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  11. GOOD! That was the plan, after all! Too many people know my tricks by now – time to get my own back! πŸ˜‰

    Thanks so much – I'm glad you enjoyed it so much *grins HUGE* You're one of those writers who I find completely compelling, so I'm really pleased you like it so much over here, and that you find the writing engaging.

    I've had a couple of people drift off, I suppose, but all the important people keep coming back, so I'm cool πŸ™‚ I can stand to lose a 'peripheral' here and there, but what I love most is to get people coming back here repeatedly so I can get to know them and bring them into part of the lovely community 'thing' which seems to be going on here at times.

    Glad no-one's dumped you! They'd be mad to.

    YAY! SMILIES πŸ˜€ πŸ™‚ :* :p 0:)

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  12. You totally had me going at first! I was trying to figure out who you were talking about. What an amazing story, Lizzi! Seriously amazing! I love when you do fiction. And when you don''t, too. I haven't really had a blogger dump me but I have had people that used to really engage with me, IMing, texting, sharing, commenting, and then just kindof drifted off. Nothing as dramatic as this though, I'm grateful to say!
    You're SO talented!!
    YAY for smileys, too πŸ˜€

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  13. *beams* Thank you so much, and what a beautiful way of putting it! I hope I do that a lot…that's the aim, really – to engage and keep my lovely readers compelled to the very end (then drop a doozie on them, but that's just me being mean)

    I guess you don't know – not for-real know, in the way that we know with our IRL friends. Although, for those IRL friends we see less of, I'd say there's as much or as little a sense of understanding as there is online. The beauty of online is that there are no niceties (as such) – it's kind of like the friendship equivalent of starting on the 3rd date, once the awkwardness and showing off is out of the way, because when we write, we reveal so much more than we ever would face-to-face with a new person.

    I can safely say I've never dumped a friend in my life. I don't even dump acquaintances (though I probably wouldn't chase…). I've never been dumped, either, so am hoping that doesn't ever happen (though at some point I may have to face it, which would be devastating)

    That said, I did get blog-dumped in SPECTACULAR style by someone I don't think I'd ever even spoken to before. That was weird. And vehement (on their part) but relatively easy to get over because I didn't know them, and they essentially had a tantrum in my direction and then blocked me from responding *shrugs*

    Sorry – you took me off on a bit of a tangent there! Glad you like it so much πŸ™‚

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  14. This is why I love you.
    You draw me in and let me swim in your world. This was so well written. It reflects upon all of our relationships that are formed through social media and how you never really know how life for that person on the other end of the screen really is.
    And oh how easy it is to just walk away from friendships without getting a backhand isn't it? I've had that happened and yes it hurts. No matter how many emails, tweets, yadda yadda, it's hard to make them accountable and aware of how hurt you are.
    This gave me chills. Really. one of my favs. xo

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  15. πŸ˜‰ I thought I'd shake it up a bit – too many people have gotten to know my tricks, and the game is given away immediately. So I felt like getting back into the hoodwinking again XD Glad to hear it *almost* worked – at first, at least πŸ™‚

    I'm so sorry to hear about your friend. That completely sucks and I want to go over there and tell her what for! How very DARE she just ditch you with no explanation. That's a really shabby thing to do. I don't blame you for still being upset and having such a reaction when you find her notes – there's no closure in a circumstance like that. I'm glad the writing helps you, because at the moment I'd like to give you a big hug and make it somehow better 😦

    You are always welcome to ramble away as much as you like here πŸ™‚ Any time – I love reading your comments.

    Thankful to know you, too – and I think you're amazing, so the feeling's completely mutual πŸ˜€ *HUGS*

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